Very good list, but one big missing thing is to invest in good relationships. Make the effort to keep in touch with people, build your community/network, have a small number of very close friends who are like family. Especially when one gets older, it is life changing to have this, and there is a compounding effect of having a friendship over decades.
"The goal is to make money boring enough that you can focus on the people, the work, and the life that actually matter." Amen, and thank you for saying it!
Very good list. Best of luck to your oldest for starting university
I'd add two things:
* If something is bothering you, do feel free to call your parents or a trusted friend, advisor, peer, etc. Also, you can leverage some principles of CBT. I would take some time (maybe at most a day or two but depends on you) to feel your feelings and acknowledge that they're there. After that, think about what you learned from the experience and brainstorm how you can move forward.
* You will face scenarios where the "right answer" is not well defined compared to classes in school. Try to not view life in black or white but rather as a spectrum. Embrace the power of experimentation (within reason of course) and learn from the outcome.
I remember for myself growing up I struggled so much with getting over the hump of "not needing to ask for validation/permission for evey little thing". If I can overcome it, I'm sure your oldest can!
Very good list, but one big missing thing is to invest in good relationships. Make the effort to keep in touch with people, build your community/network, have a small number of very close friends who are like family. Especially when one gets older, it is life changing to have this, and there is a compounding effect of having a friendship over decades.
"The goal is to make money boring enough that you can focus on the people, the work, and the life that actually matter." Amen, and thank you for saying it!
Loved it! Only thing I would add: "Veg biriyani isn't real biriyani."
That's definitely on "Being Gautham 101"
Very good list. Best of luck to your oldest for starting university
I'd add two things:
* If something is bothering you, do feel free to call your parents or a trusted friend, advisor, peer, etc. Also, you can leverage some principles of CBT. I would take some time (maybe at most a day or two but depends on you) to feel your feelings and acknowledge that they're there. After that, think about what you learned from the experience and brainstorm how you can move forward.
* You will face scenarios where the "right answer" is not well defined compared to classes in school. Try to not view life in black or white but rather as a spectrum. Embrace the power of experimentation (within reason of course) and learn from the outcome.
I remember for myself growing up I struggled so much with getting over the hump of "not needing to ask for validation/permission for evey little thing". If I can overcome it, I'm sure your oldest can!
This is amazing! Thank you for sharing with us YJ. I'll pass it on to my friends.
I love when people take time apart to jot down, distilling life lessons for others. Thank you so much.
Each point is a topic in itself. Took years to learn all of this. Wish I could have had this earlier.